30-Day limerence Reset for the insecurely attached.

A step-by-step, day-by-day guided online group program, starting march 13th, 2025.

THIS PROGRAM IS FOR YOU IF YOU’RE READY TO:

  • Understand how your insecure attachment style makes you vulnerable to repeat limerence

  • Break free from the pain, loneliness and chronic dysregulation that accompanies long-term limerence

  • Become part of a small, safe community of fellow limerents equally committed to changing their - often unhealthy, often unreciprocated - relationship patterns

  • Understand the role projecting our core wounds and unmet emotional needs from childhood plays in limerence

  • Explore why the neuroscience of limerence leaves you feeling powerless to move on

Throughout the 30-Day Limerence Reset - designed specifically for those who struggle repeat limerence, aka person addiction, as well as insecure attachment patterns – we explore simple tools to loosen the grip of limerence and lay the foundations for healthy, reciprocal, secure relationships.

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Limerence – first coined by psychologist Dorothy Tenov in the '70s – sees the limerent person unable to control their romantic fixation on the limerent object (LO), even if the other person doesn’t reciprocate.

THIS PROGRAM IS FOR YOU IF YOU:

  • Experience frequent intrusive thoughts about the LO

  • Have an overwhelming fear of rejection, being unworthy, feeling not good enough

  • Idealise the LO – often without knowing them intimately (or at all!)

  • Experience a rollercoaster of moods and emotions depending on whether the LO shows interest

  • Feel excessively shy and awkward around the LO

  • Fixate on improving yourself to win the LO’s love

This online group program includes*:

  • Daily and weekly practices, tools and reflection exercises to shine a light on your limerence and how it’s shaped by your attachment style

  • Coaching support from trauma-informed attachment coach Nat via a private online community and email

  • Lifetime access to somatic and meditation recordings

  • Pre-recorded masterclasses on: Identifying the Core Wounds that Feed Limerence; Limerence and Unmet Needs; and The Path to Reciprocal Love

    The 30-Day Limerence Reset for the Insecurely Attached features tools and resources for you to develop both deeper self-connection and healthier attachment.

    *Please note: there are no live group coaching calls as part of the 30-Day Limerence Reset.

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How It Works

The guided online group program is broken down into four weekly themes designed to build upon each other. Within each theme there are day-by-day practices, tools, and reflection exercises to support repeat limerents in moving towards healthy, reciprocal, secure relationships.

The four weekly themes are:

Week 1: Your Attachment Patterns & Limerence. Insecure attachment, particularly anxious preoccupied and fearful avoidant attachment styles, can make us vulnerable to repeat and long-term limerence. Using both attachment theory and polyvagal theory, we start to tease out how unresolved attachment trauma is making limerence so ‘sticky’ and explore both ‘bottom up’ embodied practices and ‘top down’ cognitive reframing to set the foundations for loosening limerence’s hold.

Week 2: Your Core Wounds & Limerence. Your core wounds are suppressed emotional pain that, with repetition, became deeply engrained negative self-belief. Common core wounds we experience in repeat and long-term limerence include ‘I’m unworthy’, ‘I’m not good enough’, ‘I’m unloved’, and even ‘I’m trapped’. In week two, we first identify then start to rewrite the core wounds at the root of your biggest limerence triggers.

Week 3: Your Unmet Needs & Limerence. A combination of being unaware of our core personality needs and feeling unable to express our needs safely and securely in relationships can see us lean heavily on limerence fantasies to meet those needs indirectly. In week three we take the time to identify the unique personality needs that drive our behaviours – often subconsciously – and create strategies to: meet those needs for ourselves; meet those needs through community; and meet those needs in intimate relationships.

Week 4: Your Path to Reciprocal Love. Come week four we take everything we’ve learned about ourselves so far and begin to create a roadmap for finding reciprocal love. We explore things like secure relationship expectations, healthy boundaries, self-regulation and co-regulation, healthy coping mechanisms, and more.

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ABOUT NAT:

Hi Lovely Humans,

I’m Nat, an attachment and nervous system coach. I’m passionate about all things attachment having spent decades simultaneously craving deep connection and feeling deeply triggered in intimate relationships. (Shout out to my fellow fearful avoidants who recognise themselves in this chaotic inner push-pull dynamic!)

In retrospect, I see signs of my fearful avoidant attachment style as far back as 5-6 years old. Family folklore has it that, in first grade, I would warn my classmates about the perils of women getting married and losing their autonomy.

In my teens, having been asked out for ice cream by a perfectly lovely boy called Luke, I remember a visceral fear that, if I took my eye off the prize, I’d wake up in 20 years’ time, married with kids, having lived the wrong life.

Throughout my 20s and 30s I found myself repeatedly falling into limerence, an obsessive infatuation, with men who were unavailable in some way or another. I’d pour all my feelings into doomed relationships – some of them imaginary - without fear of being trapped. It was foolproof!

These unhealthy dynamics played out time and time again until I finally twigged. To paraphrase author Jon Kabat-Zinn, wherever I went, there I was.

When I finally stumbled upon attachment theory the push-pull patterns I’d previously attributed to a broken picker, low self-esteem or even bad relationship juju began to make sense. I remember reading about insecure attachment and thinking ‘Oh, there I am.’

FAQs

What happens when I purchase the 30-Day Limerence Reset?

The 30-Day Limerence Reset starts March 13th, 2025. Please note: the start date has been moved from the original date March 11th due to an impending cyclone! In the days leading up to the start date you’ll receive your login details for the private online group. On March 13th, you’ll gain access to the week one workbook, tools, and recordings. As the week progresses, you’ll receive daily prompts and reflection exercises. You can also seek out coaching support from Nat both via the online group and email. Through the 30 days, content will be released for weeks two through to four on March 20, 27, and April 3.

Is there a refund policy for this purchase?

Please be mindful about this digital program purchase as there is no refund due to change of mind. However, if you notify This Being Human Attachment that you’re unable to commence on March 13th you will be credited to start with the next cohort.

Is this product self-paced?

While the course is structured to be completed in 30 days, we understand life happens! You have lifetime access to the workbooks, masterclasses and recordings, and coaching support from Nat via the online support group and email is available until you’ve completed the course. If you have any coaching questions you can also schedule a free 30-minute strategy call via https://thisbeinghuman.as.me/

How much time per day do I need to dedicate to the practices?

While everyone will set their own pace, I recommend between 15-20 minutes daily to get the most out of the practices.

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